As a parent I have tried to pass on several “Golden Rules” as I was taught or told by a parent or teacher.
- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
- Learn to turn the other cheek.
- Let bad words go in one ear and out the other.
- Honesty is the best policy.
I definitely taught these things to my first born son. I wanted him to be perfect, well mannered and have a good heart and a pleasant disposition. It seemed to work for the first five years of his life, and then I had my second son and the rivalry began. I blamed my second son for everything because my first son said he did it. In retrospect, I have to come realize he was the insecure one because his Dad favored his brother who was bubbly and spoke back. My first son wouldn’t because I had ingrained in him, you must have respect and so he kept it in but he let it out in other ways. This continued all through his life and now after numerous misfortunes and losing a job because he finally opened his mouth, but using the wrong words to innocent people. His now former employer, who in my opinion is a ‘witch in disguise’, has finally accomplished what I believe to be her long term goal, and ousted him. Now I am hoping he will find the gumption to fight back with both fists (figuratively) and unleash all of his buried hurts. I failed by not teaching him to have gumption and not let someone destroy your self esteem, but then again it doesn’t change a thing.
Current Mood: Sad